Friday, October 4, 2024

Don't Mansplain it away.

Listening more than talking is a key part of showing respect and support. When she shares a problem or frustration, it's not always about finding an immediate solution. Often, she just needs someone to hear her, validate her feelings, and provide space for her to navigate the situation herself. Waiting for her to solve it, or asking how you can best support her in that process, helps to reinforce her autonomy and strength. This approach shows that you trust her abilities and are there to listen rather than take over. By mentally taking notes, while listening, and then patiently waiting until the end to respond, shows genuine engagement. It allows you to fully absorb what she's saying without interrupting or rushing to a conclusion. By doing this, you’re offering your full attention and respect, which strengthens the connection. When you do respond, it can be more thoughtful and considerate, aligned with her perspective rather than overshadowing it. This way, you’re supporting her without assuming control or diminishing her agency. It's essential to show that you value her perspectives and trust her ability to handle challenges. At the same time, letting her know you're ready to offer support when needed—without taking over—demonstrates mutual respect and partnership. Being a solid presence with your own strengths to complement hers, rather than overshadow, creates a balanced, empowering dynamic in the relationship.

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